Fred Rogers: “Parents are like shuttles on a loom.”
Posted in Quotes on Apr 30th, 2008
“Parents are like shuttles on a loom. They join the threads of the past with threads of the future and leave their own bright patterns as they go.” –Fred Rogers
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Fred Rogers: “One of the deepest longings a person can have is to feel needed…”
Posted in Quotes on Apr 14th, 2008
“There’s something unique about being a member of a family that really needs you in order to function well. One of the deepest longings a person can have is to feel needed and essential.” –Fred Rogers
“When we love a person, we accept him or her exactly as is: the lovely with the unlovely, the strong along with the fearful, the true mixed in with the facade, and of course, the only way we can do it is by accepting ourselves that way.” — Fred Rogers
“Love is generally confused with dependence. Those of us who have grown in true love know that we can love only in proportion to our capacity for independence.” — Fred Rogers
Fred Rogers: “There’s the good guy and the bad guy in all of us…”
Posted in Quotes on Feb 7th, 2008
“There’s the good guy and the bad guy in all of us, but knowing that doesn’t ever need to overwhelm us. Whatever we adults can do to help ourselves — and anybody else — discover that that’s true can really make a difference in this life.” — Fred Rogers
Fred Rogers: “Often, problems are knots with many strands.”
Posted in Quotes on Feb 4th, 2008
“Often, problems are knots with many strands, and looking at those strands can make a problem seem different.” — Fred Rogers
“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” — Fred Rogers
Fred Rogers: “There’s no ’should’ or ’should not’ when it comes to having feelings.”
Posted in Quotes on Feb 3rd, 2008
“There’s no ’should’ or ’should not’ when it comes to having feelings. They’re part of who we are and their origins are beyond our control. When we can believe that, we may find it easier to make constructive choices about what to do with those feelings.” — Fred Rogers
Fred Rogers: “Confronting our feelings…takes strength”
Posted in Quotes on Jan 29th, 2008
“Confronting our feelings and giving them appropriate expression always takes strength, not weakness. It takes strength to acknowledge our anger, and sometimes more strength yet to curb the aggressive urges anger may bring and to channel them into nonviolent outlets. It takes strength to face our sadness and to grieve and to let our grief [...]
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If Jill could recommend only one book on building a better mom-stepmom relationship, it would be The Anatomy of Peace, and it's not even about stepfamilies. It's about helping things go right in all kinds of relationships. Related posts
People with drastically different communication styles can appear hostile to each other when they think they are signaling friendliness and consideration. That's Not What I Meant! is like the Rosetta stone. Related posts
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The Parent Effectiveness Training book is our parenting bible. It's a guide to parenting with respect, consideration for everyone's needs, and without manipulation. It has probably also informed our relationship with each other. Do we always follow it perfectly? No, but we try. Related posts
How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is a great to read alongside the P.E.T. book above. The conversational techniques it teaches dovetail with the P.E.T. approach.
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My Father Married Your Mother is collection of essays about real life stepfamily experiences by authors including Barbara Kingsolver, Sandra Tsing Loh, Jacquelyn Mitchard, Susan Cheever, and more. Related posts
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