A mom and a stepmom share stories, ideas, friendship and family
Inspired by Samara and Lori, we decided to make Christmas cookies together, too. Kathy called me up with the idea and invited me over.
I asked Kathy if she had some candles she could light for more photogenic cooking.
We got a little silly. (Kathy threw herself into the photo shoot. And then she let me post [...]
Posted in Holidays on Dec 14th, 2007
No guarantees (unless you yourself have something wonderful up your sleeve), but it’s always possible, and sometimes we don’t see things we’re not prepared to see.
Posted in Holidays on Dec 14th, 2007
If you feel like you could use it, find a counselor or a coach to talk you through your plans, fears and hopes for the holidays.
Last year I happened to find hypnotherapist a month or so before the holidays. She gave a lunchtime talk at work on reducing stress during the holidays. Her advice was [...]
Posted in Holidays on Dec 14th, 2007
It’s okay to be sad, and it’s okay to let other people see you sad.
Posted in Holidays on Dec 14th, 2007
If you’re in a stressful holiday situation, start imagining how you could retell it as a funny story or turn it into a funny blog post.
Posted in Holidays on Dec 14th, 2007
Do something creative or generative that you enjoy. Paint a picture (even if you buy a set of kids’ water colors from the grocery store and don’t show the results to anyone), write a poem, write an essay, take a picture, make a sculpture, write a song, learn a new piece of music, make a [...]
Posted in Holidays on Dec 14th, 2007
Holidays can be pretty challenging in stepfamilies. (Did I just win the understatement of the year award?) Here’s the deal though: if they’re hard for you, chances are they’re hard for other people in your immediate or extended stepfamily, too. Anyone could be feeling frustrated, awkward or sad: the kids, the kids’ other parent, your [...]
Posted in Holidays, Movies, TV & music on Dec 14th, 2007
Try watching a movie this holiday season that will remind you that living in an eclectic, eccentric, sometimes emotionally messy, all-over-the-place family can be pretty darn funny and beautiful.
My favorite wacky family feel-good movie is Little Miss Sunshine. I own it (in fact, Kathy and the kids gave it to me for my birthday) so [...]
Posted in Quotes on Dec 14th, 2007
“Hardly ever do you hear about or see a beautiful divorce where the ex-husband and ex-wife and all the husbands-in-law and wifes-in-law get along nicely and live happily ever after. . . .
“Look in any bookstore or library. There you will find hundreds of books telling you how to be happily married, but not one [...]
What kind of women are we? We are bad women. Why does this delight us so? We’re not sure, but it does.
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