The DHX: The Doughtie Houses Exchange

Kathy and I see G differently. G and I see Kathy differently. It used to bug me when one of them would describe the other in way that was different from the person I saw. Trying to get Kathy to see G through my eyes or G to see Kathy through my eyes didn’t change [...]

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We get a lot of comments about how nice it is that we work together for the sake of the kids, and it’s true — it is nice for the kids that we work together, but it’s not just for the kids — at least from my perspective. It’s for me, it’s for G, and [...]

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Sewing new pictures and details on the stockings is my favorite part of the holidays. Sewing quiets the worry part of my brain. My brain follows its rhythms, thinks a space ahead and generates ideas as I need them. I’m in flow. Sewing is my own. It’s not a holiday tradition in any of our [...]

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At first it’s like two straight men waking up one morning to find their hands superglued to each other’s balls.
You’re intimately connected in places that feel downright wrong to be connected. She’s connected to your guy and you’re connected to her children in ways that feel fantastically uncomfortable at a gut level.
And you’re surprised. You [...]

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By Katherine Shirek Doughtie
Chilling.
I just looked up some statistics on second marriages and, boy, they are not good. When Jill and I first started talking about this blog, we tried to figure out roughly how many marriages were second marriages and how many ended in divorce. We both guessimated — based on what? [...]

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