http://www.thedhx.com A mom and a stepmom share stories, ideas, friendship and family Tue, 02 Dec 2008 23:31:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 en hourly 1 http://www.thedhx.com/2008/12/02/links-for-tuesday-december-2/ http://www.thedhx.com/2008/12/02/links-for-tuesday-december-2/#comments Tue, 02 Dec 2008 23:31:27 +0000 Jill http://www.thedhx.com/?p=693

CoolMom: Second-Hand Husbands

Becoming a Stepmom: Smackdown for Stepmoms: Visualize Your Ideal Stepfamily

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StevePavilina.com: Soulful Relationships - “…the best we can do with our lives is to achieve the point of optimal balance whereby serving our own needs and serving the whole body are congruent… Interdependence is a higher level of consciousness than independence.  Fear serves the latter; fearlessness, the former.”  (more) 

Oprah.com: Meditations for Interacting with Others – Guided meditations on forgiveness and lovingkindness by Jack Kornfield. (link)

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A Stepmom’s Say: About Mommy – “Nothing has brought me more angry comments and viciousness, than the fact that I let the reader know that my stepsons call me “Mom.” I totally understand the passion behind these comments, but often disagree with the reasoning.” (more)

Typical Momma: To Be Or Not To Be Mom – “If Mom is actively involved in your community and actively involved in the children’s lives; don’t introduce yourself as the children’s mother. Allow the community and the children to be proud of the fact that you are their stepmother and you care. This impact will be greater than you realize. The sooner we dispell the concept that stepparents aren’t involved parental role models… the better off we will be. It is OKAY to be the stepmom.” (more)

Cool Mom: Step Mommies (video) – Cool Mom talks to her mom, a former teacher, about the positive role she often saw stepmoms playing in the families she interacted with.

Marshall Rosenberg on Nonviolent Communication (video) – De-escalating conflict through listening for what people are feeling and needing instead of for what they think about us.

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Breed ‘Em And Weep: Having it made and unmade – “This is what one gives up, succumbing to divorce, releasing into the wild a love you once were sure you had made.” (link)

Paul Graham: Lies We Tell Kids – “Adults lie constantly to kids. I’m not saying we should stop, but I think we should at least examine which lies we tell and why.” (link)

J.K. Rowling: The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination – “Now, I am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun… So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me… I was set free…” (link)

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Parenting Advice: Working It Out After Divorce – Co-Parenting As A Lifelong Process – “Children feel all the tension that exists between their divorced parents. And they often suffer when parents ignore this tension or act out from it. Children often feel ‘in the middle’ (and are sadly, too often placed in the middle when parents cannot contain or work through their disappointment, anger, fear, or hurt). And even when they are not placed in the middle, they still feel pain that their parents are treating one another with animosity, contempt, distrust, disrespect, anger or fear.” (more)

Darlene Weyburne on DivorceMag: The Co-parenting Relationship – “Support your children in loving and building a relationship with the other parent. Never start a sentence with “If your father/mother really loved you…” Don’t allow your feelings…to interfere with your support of your children’s need to love and be loved by your former partner. Just as you’re able to love a new baby without loving your other children less, your children can love more than one parent… They’ll develop healthier relationships if they don’t have to choose between loving you and loving their other parent.” (more)

That And Two Dimes: Fun and Games – A fun weekend at Aunt Pillowhead’s house: “[I]t seems we all have found a new comfortable place to enjoy each other, and it’s working. I’m really happy about that, and trying to just appreciate it while it lasts.” (more)

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