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Posted in Co-parenting, Divorce, Holidays, Love, Parenting, Peacemaking, Remarriage on Apr 26th, 2008
By Katherine Shirek Doughtie
I was selling my book at the LA Times Festival of Books today, when I heard a woman’s voice say “Don’t I know you?” After about five minutes of cross-referencing, we figured out that we had shared a cabin at a church camp about 12 years ago, had had Thanksgiving together [...]
Posted in Co-parenting, Stories on Apr 15th, 2008
By Jill Davis Doughtie
It was Tuesday. Jack’s class was leaving for Wyoming the following Sunday. We got an email from the trip organizers reminding us that it would be about fifteen degrees there and re-sending us the list of things he should bring with him: a warm winter coat, wool sweaters, a waterproof jacket, long [...]
Posted in Links on Apr 15th, 2008
Parenting Advice: Working It Out After Divorce - Co-Parenting As A Lifelong Process - “Children feel all the tension that exists between their divorced parents. And they often suffer when parents ignore this tension or act out from it. Children often feel ‘in the middle’ (and are sadly, too often placed in the middle when [...]
Posted in Quotes on Apr 14th, 2008
“There’s something unique about being a member of a family that really needs you in order to function well. One of the deepest longings a person can have is to feel needed and essential.” –Fred Rogers
Posted in Links on Apr 14th, 2008
Woulda Coulda Shoulda: Life isn’t fair - “I have to believe that it will be okay, somehow. I sit here and try to push King Solomon out of my mind’s eye. Instead, I replace him with Chickadee and Monkey as grown adults rather than the gangly weeds they currently are, and in my vision they [...]
Posted in Quotes on Apr 12th, 2008
As we know,
There are known knowns.
There are things we know we know.
We also know
There are known unknowns.
That is to say
We know there are some things
We do not know.
But there are also unknown unknowns,
The ones we don’t know
We don’t know.
– Donald Rumsfeld, Department of Defense news briefing. Arranged into a poem by Hart Seely.
Posted in Quotes on Apr 12th, 2008
“The only way I can be angry at you is when I have thought, said or done something that is unkind in my own opinion.” — Byron Katie
This sounds pretty backwards, but it resonates with me.
Posted in Parenting on Apr 9th, 2008
By Jill Davis Doughtie
One of the things I had to learn as a newbie stepparent is that I can’t do stuff for the kids because I’m counting on it earning me points, love, appreciation, affection, cooperation, understanding or anything else. I can do stuff for the kids because I want to do it, but I [...]
Posted in Quotes on Apr 9th, 2008
“When it comes to divorce, may happy extended families one day be the norm!” –Jennifer Newcomb Marine, No One’s the Bitch
Posted in Quotes on Apr 9th, 2008
“Why do we focus so intensely on our problems? What draws us to them? Why are they so attractive? They have the magnet power of love: somehow we desire our problems; we are in love with them much as we want to get rid of them… Problems sustain us — maybe that’s why they [...]
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