Comments on: I bet I know what you’re thinking! http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/ A mom and a stepmom share stories, ideas, friendship and family Sun, 12 Oct 2008 15:18:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Mrs. H http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/#comment-908 Mrs. H Fri, 07 Mar 2008 16:06:20 +0000 http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/#comment-908 I totally get what you are saying. That is what I am trying to figure out right now. I'm not trying to change BM; I'm trying to change myself so that I can feel good about the situation. I don't know that it is possible to be friends with her, I'm not sure she is capable of real friendship with anyone (and I'm not good at phoney-baloney), but whatever the closest thing to that is, is what I'm looking for. If anything, I just want to stop all the conflict. I totally get what you are saying.

That is what I am trying to figure out right now. I’m not trying to change BM; I’m trying to change myself so that I can feel good about the situation. I don’t know that it is possible to be friends with her, I’m not sure she is capable of real friendship with anyone (and I’m not good at phoney-baloney), but whatever the closest thing to that is, is what I’m looking for.

If anything, I just want to stop all the conflict.

]]> By: Rattling the Kettle http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/#comment-907 Rattling the Kettle Fri, 07 Mar 2008 04:42:54 +0000 http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/#comment-907 "Go jump in the river" is such a disappointing expression when, as I did, one grew up with the similar, but oh so much more colorful Yiddish expression, "gey kaken offen yam" (translation: go s**t in the ocean). Same meaning. :-) “Go jump in the river” is such a disappointing expression when, as I did, one grew up with the similar, but oh so much more colorful Yiddish expression, “gey kaken offen yam” (translation: go s**t in the ocean). Same meaning. :-)

]]> By: lucky13 http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/#comment-898 lucky13 Thu, 06 Mar 2008 14:38:26 +0000 http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/#comment-898 Jill you're hilarious...i actually pictured you singing "all you need is love" - trumpets and all... You and Kathy, and probably countless others, are in a great place in your lives and in your relationship. Thank you for showing us another side of the step-life! Jill you’re hilarious…i actually pictured you singing “all you need is love” - trumpets and all…
You and Kathy, and probably countless others, are in a great place in your lives and in your relationship. Thank you for showing us another side of the step-life!

]]> By: Natalie http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/#comment-895 Natalie Thu, 06 Mar 2008 04:43:06 +0000 http://www.thedhx.com/2008/03/05/i-bet-i-know-what-youre-thinking/#comment-895 No daisies? Darn it! I was hoping you could teach me how to do that! (kidding) I've not ever gotten the feeling that you think everyone should have what you and Kathy have been able to create. I feel fortunate to be able to have a peek into what you have, to see how it works and how it was established. I look forward to seeing how your relationship will continue to grow. I'm in a situation where wishing stepmom and ex-husband well from a distance is working. I would like for things to be different. Having a good co-parenting relationship and others to share in this parenting journey would be wonderful. But it's not for us right now. It may not ever be. And that's ok. I'll take the peace we have today and be thankful that it's so much better than it was at the beginning. No daisies? Darn it! I was hoping you could teach me how to do that! (kidding)

I’ve not ever gotten the feeling that you think everyone should have what you and Kathy have been able to create. I feel fortunate to be able to have a peek into what you have, to see how it works and how it was established. I look forward to seeing how your relationship will continue to grow.

I’m in a situation where wishing stepmom and ex-husband well from a distance is working. I would like for things to be different. Having a good co-parenting relationship and others to share in this parenting journey would be wonderful. But it’s not for us right now. It may not ever be. And that’s ok. I’ll take the peace we have today and be thankful that it’s so much better than it was at the beginning.

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