The way out
Feb 7th, 2008 by Jill
The way out of an entrenched conflict is not to do a better job of hiding what we feel and think about the situation and the other people — I don’t think that’s possible. I think on some level the people in our lives in both houses know what we really think or feel no matter how carefully we try to hide it.
The secret is to question our interpretation of the situation and the other people, and to look for missing pieces of a bigger picture.
If we’re stuck in an entrenched conflict where no matter what we do the conflict gets worse — and the other person just seems to get worse — it’s a sign that we don’t completely understand the problem yet.
