Maryamie: Deconstructing the Myth of the Wicked Stepmom
Nov 15th, 2007 by Jill
“Nothing in my life had ever prepared me to become that dreaded, hateful figure in someone else’s life: a step mom. And yet here I was marrying Robert and as a result becoming Patrick’s step mom. The concept frightened me to no end. What if Patrick would grow to hate me and want to blow my face off with explosive materials? What would I do without a face? Or worse what if becoming a step mom suddenly transformed me into something utterly evil? . . . Oh how I hated to become the wicked step mom.” –Maryamie, Deconstructing the Myth of the Wicked Stepmom
Maryamie (a.k.a. Maryam Scoble) doesn’t blog a lot about being a stepmom, but earlier this year, she wrote a long post about her experiences, and it’s a good one. She starts out describing the fears she had going into the relationship, and why she had them. Now, four years down the road, though, she’s in a good place:
“What I thought would be one of the most formidable relationships in my life, has proven to be a source of blessing and joy I never dreamt of experiencing and don’t want to live without.”
Some of her tips:
- “build a good relationship with their mother . . . you are now parts of the same extended family”
- “remember that as a step parent, you are not taking the place of the parent”
- “enjoy the time you spend with your step child by finding out a point of common interest”
It’s a thoughtful post, and worth reading in full. What do you think of this advice? Have similar or different things worked for you?
